What to expect by relocating with your family

A relocation that involves your family is about far more than logistics. It’s an emotional and psychological shift for every family member. The employee might be focused on their new role, but their partner and children are often dealing with the upheaval of leaving behind social circles, careers, schools, and familiar surroundings. If these transitions are not handled thoughtfully, it can lead to increased stress, homesickness, and there might even be considered moving back to your home country.

When you recognize that you or your family members have trouble finding their way in The Netherlands, it can be good to address it early, to create the conditions for both professional success and personal well-being. Talk about it with your employer and your family, so that you can find structure and empathy that can significantly reduce the adjustment period for the entire household.

Navigating Dutch life: language, culture & systems

Even though the Netherlands is highly international and English is widely spoken, adjusting to everyday life still takes time. Families must quickly learn how to navigate Dutch systems—from registering with the municipality and securing health insurance, to understanding how waste collection works or how to set up utilities.

Dutch culture values independence, direct communication, and planning ahead. These norms can differ significantly from you might be used to. For example, arranging playdates weeks in advance or needing appointments for everything from haircuts to vaccinations might feel unusual at first. Language training and cultural awareness programs can ease this transition, especially for your partner and children, who may not be as immersed in Dutch life through work or school as yourself.

Finding the right place to live

Housing is one of the top concerns for relocating families. Before you move, you need to consider affordability, the proximity of the home to schools, workplaces, public transportation, and healthcare providers. In high-demand cities like Amsterdam, The Hague, and Utrecht, the housing market is tight and competitive. Make sure that you have your budget and wishes sorted out and do some research if this is possible within your budget. You can also ask if your employer can help you in your search for a new home in The Netherlands. If you haven’t found a new home yet, consider temporary housing. This way, you buy yourself a little bit more time to find a suiting accommodation for you and your family.

Education and childcare: big decisions for families

Choosing a school is often one of the most important decisions for relocating families. The Netherlands offers a wide range of options—from local Dutch schools (which are free) to bilingual programs and private international schools. Each comes with its own enrolment timelines, admission criteria, and language expectations.

International schools often have long waiting lists and high tuition fees, which can come as a surprise. Employers that provide guidance on school systems, help schedule school tours, or assist with the application process show that they truly understand the family’s priorities.

Childcare after school is another essential topic. The Dutch childcare system includes formal daycare centers, in-home childminders (gastouders), and after-school care (BSO). You might also be eligible for childcare benefits depending on your income and working status, but the application process can be confusing. Read more about childcare in The Netherlands.

Your partner’s career journey

A relocation is often a career move for one, but a career pause, or a full reset, for the other. Spouses and partners frequently struggle to find employment in the Netherlands, particularly if they do not speak Dutch or if their professional networks are still developing. Visa restrictions or lack of local experience can also be barriers.

Try connecting your spouse with job coaches, industry networks, volunteer opportunities, or even in-house roles where possible. Some also host “partner orientation days” or community events to help partners build connections and feel included.